I met a girl. I actually saw her at the very first AA meeting I went to a few weeks ago ( For that reason and the fact that we already have an inside joke, I will from this point on refer to her as Chelsey Toaster. (Her pseudonym). I couldn’t keep my eyes off of her. Somewhat unprofessional in a meeting, but what could I do, I’d been away at camp for a long time. I couldn’t be certain, but she seemed to either catch me a couple of times looking at her, or she was checking me out too. (Very unprofessional, Ms. Toaster.) I shared about my recent release from boot camp, and my struggles with anxiety and how everything seemed to be moving so much faster out here. When the meeting was over, she came up to me and said that she had also just been released from prison. I said, “Really?” And she replied, “No, I wasn’t. I just wanted to make you feel better.” Hmm. A jokester, I think I like that. And that was all. Well not quite but the rest was recovery related so I don’t talk about it because it was at a meeting. Very professional, Vince.
So I kept seeing her at meetings, and I kept my eyes on her. She is beautiful, smart, funny, charismatic, and I kept thinking about her, and she kept letting me talk to her after meetings, which was great because I was having issues with socialization when I first got back to reality. I have never pursued or dated anybody in recovery. It’s not that it’s a bad idea, it’s just that it never happened. So I asked her for her phone number, which she gave me. And ever since, we’ve been talking, and seeing each other whenever possible on my limited time out of the house. We went for a walk yesterday after I got off of work and it was really nice to walk hand in hand with somebody. And today she accompanied me while I ran my errands. It’s been a very long time since I have had the company of a woman who wasn’t strung out or drinking heavily. So that’s my introduction of the lovely and brave Ms. Toaster. I don’t want to rush into anything on many levels, but I have a feeling that many future posts will involve her.
I haven’t had any kind of a relationship in years. Even before prison. It’s not that I didn’t want one, it’s that I was a huge piece of shit for so long and I knew it and I knew that any real attempt at securing a girlfriend would probably have meant that I would have to curtail my alcoholism and addictions, something I was not willing to set aside for anything. And although I’m fresh out of the clink, I believe I’m in the best position in a very long time to, at the very least, see if I’m capable of starting and maintaining a healthy connection to another human being. So, I have that going for me, which is nice. 🙂
In other news, I went in for an eye exam today. Thank you Lisa! You know who you are. The optometrist told me that my eyes are more football shaped than globe, which she could have just called astigmatism, and I wouldn’t now feel self-conscious about. I mean, what gives her the right to tell me my eyes aren’t normal other than her being an eye Doctor? What are her qualifications? I bet she doesn’t even have her G.E.D. Well, anyhow, I have contacts now but I still keep pushing on the place where I used to have glasses sliding down. Now it just looks like I’m pointing at my head. I’m sure that will go away in time.
And finally, I got to see my uncle and his family today. He and his wife brought their two incredible children whom I had never met due to my substantial absence. My mother baked a chicken, and I made roasted garlic and squash soup and a chocolate cake with caramel-butter frosting. And we sat around the table and caught up. I’m really starting to like this family thing. I still feel guilty sometimes, but I know I’m forgiven for my absence.
Next up on the blog: Camp Heartland– An eye opening experience.