Today is Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year. It’s as good a time as any to re-start writing. I’ll join some friends at synagogue this morning, then have a free day. The weather is always beautiful on Rosh Hashanah, so I’ll spend as much time outside as possible, doing as little as possible, which is really hard for me.
It’s been three years since my son was released from prison. I saw him yesterday and reminded him, “When I called you the day before I picked you up, I asked if there was some food you’d like me to bring along for you. And without hesitation you said, ‘an avocado…or any fresh fruit or vegetable, really.’”
He laughed, remembering this. I had brought an avocado, and some oranges, and he wolfed them down. Then he had asked to stop at a MacDonald’s, and to buy a lottery ticket. I wasn’t happy about either of those but I bit my tongue. I did a lot of that in the months that followed, as we lived together in my tiny, dark flat over the winter. A couple times I lost my temper and screamed at some inanimate object. Vince would draw himself up to his full height, look at the floor, walk to his bedroom that doubled as a laundry room, and shut the door. It was a very long winter.
Vince now has four years of sobriety. He’s got a job at a country club with good pay and benefits like health insurance—for the first time in 20 years. He bought a house this spring. He has a girlfriend with two young children, and he is thriving at playing a father role.
It’s complicated. I love kids and I am cautiously forming attachments to these two cuties.
It’s been a great summer. As I’ve written over and over, I’m a big advocate of seeking adventure at home. Sure, I would love to travel nonstop, but that’s not in the budget.
This was Pola-Czesky Days, the annual festival in the tiny town where Vince lives. Small town parades consist of marching bands and floats featuring veterans, civic groups, politicians, and other towns’ princesses.
There was also a tractor pull, which I didn’t understand. It was basically just tractors roaring down the street over and over, making a lot of noise and belching out fumes.
As a life-long city person, this type of thing is more exotic to me than London or New York. I loved the classic cars.
Other summer doings: I won tickets to a St. Paul Saints minor league baseball game. They were playing Winnipeg. I don’t know why the Saints mascot is a pig, but hey, never pass up a photo opp with a mascot.
I went to Irish Festival, which always has great music and strange performances involving little girls wearing curly wigs, Irish dogs, and men in kilts hurling things and playing bagpipes. Then were the Christians at the gate. I already knew I was in trouble so their Good News wasn’t news to me.
I went to Wannigan Days in St. Croix Falls, Wisconsin, the highlight of which was human foosball. Unfortunately I didn’t get a good photo so you will just have to use your imagination.
There was a memorable happy hour at Lake Monster Brewery sponsored by Jewish Community Action, with which I am still doing my very small part on their campaigns to reduce mass incarceration and injustice against immigrants.
Inspired by the Great British Baking Show, for my nephew’s birthday I made a cake with layers of sponge and crème patisserie covered with whipped cream and fruit. It slid sideways in the car on the way to the party but it still tasted good.
I hung out in the backyard of my apartment, which is wild and secluded. I have come to love where I live, but then I love anywhere in summer.
My summer summary will have to be continued, as will an update on my Australia trip, which starts in two weeks.