I got up this morning to find that one of three kittens I am fostering for the Humane Society was dead. It’s not uncommon for foster kittens to die. The mother cats are stray, barely adults themselves, emaciated and hungry, and/or diseased. It’s a cruel world.
Later today I will attend a funeral where Vince will give the eulogy for his best friend from prison. I don’t know how he died. He was only 34.
For those of you who are new to the blog, I began writing it with my son when he was in prison. As he transitioned from prison and addiction to a healthy, sober life, I was freed to write about fun things like travel.
I still try to contribute to efforts at reforming our US system of mass incarceration. This week I attended a meeting with the new Commissioner of the Minnesota Department of Corrections.
We were there to demand a moratorium on a practice called crimeless revocations. In Minnesota, out of the 10,000 men and women in prison, 24% are not there for committing a crime. That’s right; they are in prison because, after serving their sentence and being released, they missed a meeting with their parole agent or—most commonly—they relapsed and used drugs or alcohol.
So we lock them up, where they sit in prison for four to eight months. They do not receive drug or alcohol treatment or any other services because they are short-termers. They lose their jobs, their housing, and whatever fragile relationships they have started to rebuild on the outside.
The commissioner agreed that this practice is a waste of time, money, and lives. But he said he couldn’t stop doing it until he gets buy-in from all his people. We’ll meet with him again in a month.
Vince wasn’t sent back to prison, but he had all his privileges revoked because he didn’t answer when his parole agent called. He was doing community service work in a noisy warehouse at the time and didn’t hear his phone ring. For a month, he was not allowed to leave the house for anything but work. No AA, no socializing with family or his sober friends. No gym, no runs. None of the things that were going to keep him on an upward trajectory. It was his darkest month.
The prison system is designed to punish, not rehabilitate. One of the worst forms of punishment is to mess with people by setting unclear expectations, catching them on some minor infraction, and coming down on them like a sledgehammer.
In Japan, as I’ve described already, I stood to one side and observed as worshipers approached the inner sanctum of a temple or shrine. In Tokyo, Nikko, Kyoto, Nara, and Koyasan, they bowed, clapped, threw coins into a donation box, and lighted incense or candles.
I’m not a believer, but I felt something, at times. Perhaps it was because I was mystified by what was taking place. Maybe I was moved by the sincerity of the worshipers, or the atmosphere.
Especially since my aunt died, and now that Vince’s friend has died, I would like to think there is the possibility of some lingering connection between the living and the dead.
Maybe I should turn the French curio cabinet I inherited from my aunt into a household shrine, complete with photos of ancestors and incense burners.
Day Two in Tokyo. My sister-in-law’s father, Fred, is retired from a big Japanese company. He has been painting with a group of fellow retirees for years. If I understood correctly, companies support their retirees to participate in hobbies together. Fred is also in an essay-writing group. Today I managed to find the building in which his painting group was holding an exhibition; these are his works. He’s very talented.
I stopped first to get some pastries because that’s what people do in Japanese novels.
I’ve had eight hairstyles since I last saw Fred and Hiromi five years ago. But of course I’m white. He picked me out in the crowded building lobby, hugged me, and said, “Welcome, Anne-san!”